The Valued Self
Tara’s Teaching on Becoming the Realized Self
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You have spent a long time earning your way to a sense of your own value — proving, achieving, becoming useful enough to deserve a place. Tara offers a different beginning, and The Valued Self is where her whole body of teaching opens.
A Word of Love from Tara
"Yes, dear ones, this is Tara. And what a pleasure it is to be with you at this time on your spiritual journey.
One we hold dear once asked us for a foundational teaching — something that would truly elevate his consciousness — and when we gave him this, we watched him wonder whether we had understood the question. We had.
What is offered here is not slight at all. It is the ground everything else stands on."
— Tara, as channeled by Katharina Notarianni
You probably learned early in life that value is something you accumulate. Do well, be good, be needed — and the sense of mattering will follow. It is a reasonable thing to believe. It is also the reason so many capable people arrive at midlife having done everything right and still feel that something essential is missing. Tara has been teaching on this topic for more than thirty years. Her position is simple and, for many readers, quietly disarming: you are a divine being manifest in the Earth plane, a Soul having a physical experience.
YOUR WORTH WAS NEVER SOMETHING TO EARN.
What if the very thing you have spent much of your life trying to prove was never in question? What if your worth was given to you before you ever accomplished a thing? And what if becoming your Valued Self isn't about becoming someone new — but about bringing together the humanity you have built and the divinity you have always carried?
The Valued Self is Book One of Tara’s Soul Series and the foundation for the journey that follows.
A Different Way of Understanding Your Value
The world taught us that value had to be demonstrated.
Be good.
Do well.
Work hard.
Be useful.
Be successful.
Be loved.
Somewhere along the way, we may have quietly made an agreement with ourselves:
I will become worthy.
But Tara offers a profound distinction.
There are things you build through being human, in time and space, through Doing — and there are things you were given by Source (God, Goddess) simply by Being.
THE TRIANGLE OF HUMANITY
✦ Self-Respect ✦ Self-Confidence ✦ Self-Esteem
These are qualities you develop through experience, choice, effort, and relationship with the world.
THE TRIANGLE OF DIVINITY
✦ Self-Awareness ✦ Self-Love ✦ Self-Worth
These are not prizes waiting at the end of your spiritual journey. They are given. By Source, by God, by Goddess.
When these two triangles come together, they merge to form the six-pointed star of the activated Valued Self. And at the center is you, the Realized Self.
“It begins by standing in your humanity
and accepting — receiving — your divinity.
That is the activation of the Valued Self.” — Tara
Why This Matters
We can spend enormous energy trying to earn what was never ours to earn. And at the same time, we can wait for something to arrive that only our human experience can create. That confusion can leave us exhausted.
Tara's teaching brings the two together. You don't have to reject your humanity to embrace your divinity. You don't have to become perfect to be worthy. You don't have to overcome the parts of yourself you don't like. Instead, you begin by standing in your humanity and receiving your divinity.
That is where the Valued Self begins.
Meeting the Lesser Self
One of Tara's most compassionate teachings is her invitation to meet the Lesser Self within you differently. The Lesser Self is not an enemy to defeat.It is the part of you that learned how to survive.
It developed strategies.
It made decisions.
It tried to protect you.
It adapted to the world as you experienced it.
What if you could look at that part of yourself with gratitude rather than judgment?
What becomes possible when you no longer have to fight yourself in order to change?
The Valued Self begins to emerge when the parts of you that have been trying so hard to protect you can finally be met with understanding and compassion. As you become more, the Lesser Self requires a new sense of safety, one that comes from connection, not from the inner child or inner adolescent survival strategies.
From Understanding to Experience
This is not simply a book to read. It is a teaching to experience.
Inside The Valued Self, Tara guides you through:
The Six Aspects: Discover the six qualities that make up the Valued Self and understand the essential distinction between what you earn and what you are given.
The Two Triangles: Explore the Triangle of Humanity and the Triangle of Divinity—and why both are necessary.
The Lesser Self: Meet the part of yourself that has been trying to keep you safe, and begin relating to it with compassion.
The Activation: Move through a guided experience designed to bring the six aspects together and activate the Valued Self.
The Daily Practice: Begin bringing the teaching into ordinary moments through conscious choice, forgiveness, and a new relationship with your own reality.
Where Your Soul Journey Begins
The Valued Self is Book One of Tara's Soul Series.
It is the grounding. Before you explore the architecture of a human life in The Soul Journey Map, before you enter the deeper healing work of Soul Healing: The Remembering, and before you move into the embodiment of The Becoming, Tara begins here:
Know your value.
Receive what was given.
Build what is yours to build.
Bring the two together. Activate the Valued Self. Become the Realized Self.
The journey is not about becoming worthy.
It is about realizing your worth that was there all along.
A Teaching to Return To
Some books are meant to be read once. The Valued Self is meant to become a companion.
Return when you find yourself trying to prove your worth.
Return when you have forgotten what is already yours.
Return when your Lesser Self is asking to be understood.
Return when you need to remember the difference between what you must build and what you can simply receive.
And return whenever you are ready to stand at the center of your own star.
“Your time is now. You have the permission.
You have the tools.” — Tara
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An Overview of Tara’s Soul Series
BOOK ONE
The Valued Self
Tara's Teaching on Becoming Your Realized Self
Begin Your Journey.
BOOK TWO
The Soul Journey Map
Tara’s Guide to the Seven Movements of a Human Life
Continue Your Exploration.
BOOK THREE
A Year with Tara
A Guided Practice for Conscious Reality Creators
Support Your Journey with Daily Practices.
BOOK FOUR
SOUL HEALING: THE REMEMBERING
Understand the Scripts That Shaped You, Release What No Longer Serves, and Consciously Create a Life You Love
Go Deeper in Remembering Who You Are.
BOOK FIVE (WORKBOOK)
Your Soul's Journey - A Companion Workbook
to SOUL HEALING: THE REMEMBERING
Be Guided in Remembering.
BOOK SIX
SOUL HEALING: THE BECOMING
From Understanding to Embodiment - Living as a Conscious Reality Creator
Go Deeper in Becoming More.
BOOK SEVEN (WORKBOOK)
Your Soul's Journey Continues - A Companion Workbook to SOUL HEALING: THE BECOMING
Be Guided in Becoming More.